JournalismPakistan.com July 12, 2013
Just a passing thought grabbed from something I read in a paper. Funny, how it sticks in the mind. This one says delusions, especially self-delusions, are more important for our ego and esteem than reality. Reality is stark and cruel and ugly and so in your face. Delusions are buddies, they are a comforter, like Linus with his blanket, you can mould them to fit you.
One of the biggest delusions is that we are popular and people like us for ourselves. That is outright hilarious and the con game we play on ourselves is worth rolling on the floor with mirth. It would come as a shock to most of us if we were to stare at the huge gap between how we perceive ourselves and others perceive us. It is like two different roads running parallel and not ever crossing each other.
You couldn’t even try to leap over the yawning chasm. You see it as kindness, the world sees you as patronizing. You have style, people think you are a snob. You are warm-hearted and generous, others think you are showing off and social climbing. You dress well, gee you really think no end of yourself. You maintain your figure, when is she going to stop acting sixteen. You wallow in your success like a hippo in mud, your ‘friends’ resent your arrogance. You are gracious, people think you are putting it on, what an act, anyone can see through it. You think you are funny and charming, that lot thinks you are idiotic and crass. You think you are good looking…women think you are tedious, like watching water freezing. You think you are welcome…people see you coming and say, uh oh here comes that bore again.
But keep your delusions. Without them you would have no petrol in the tank and then where would you go.
(The writer is a Senior Editorial Advisor of Khaleej Times and the paper’s former Editor. He has also been the Editor of Gulf News, Gulf Today, Emirates Today and Bahrain Tribune)
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