JournalismPakistan.com June 22, 2013
A friend of mine is hugely upset. Not only has his maid absconded but one of his prized staff has gone behind his back and quit on the pretext of going home to look after his ageing parents and no cigars for guessing he is now back with a rival company.
After all I did for the ungrateful blister, he yells, may he boil in oil. Graphic perhaps but very common and let’s face it, some time in our lives we have also sort of ‘done the dirty.’
Money, rank, power, career movement, prestige, they cancel gratitude. And gratitude cannot be forever. This is where we err. While no one likes the sharp tooth of ingratitude you cannot expect eternal loyalty, gratitude or surrender. How many times have you dumped someone who helped you, or ducked him because he or she knows where you came from or who you were before the fates gave you a break.
How often have we not badmouthed those who gave us a leg up with the salve of a sentiment that says, big deal he only helped me because it suited him, he got his pound’s worth.
Most of us are small people with small minds and little grace. When we behave in an ugly fashion we see it as a strategic move. When someone does it to us we shout and scream with impotent rage…do you know who was before I gave him a break…nothing.
Give him or her a break, then move on, don’t make the mistake of expecting returns. There aren’t any. Remember that no good deed goes unpunished. Change someone’s life, they will never forgive you. Gratitude is a heavy burden, we don’t like to carry it.
(The writer is a Senior Editorial Advisor of Khaleej Times and the paper’s former Editor. He has also been the Editor of Gulf News, Gulf Today, Emirates Today and Bahrain Tribune)
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